Having little patience with humanity
Jan. 4th, 2004 02:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
taratemima"Yes, we think we're doing something educational because we're sitting at a keyboard, but really the Internet is good for two things: stealing music and meeting thirteen-year-old girls. Yes, there's never been a better time to be a pedophiliac jazz buff."
- Bill Maher
Anyway, I got![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
browngirl her birthday present. I didn't feel good about burning the entire NMBC soundtrack, so I bought it (I broke my rule of not downloading entire albums when I did Your Funeral, My Trial, but I won't do that again). Danny Elfman gets more of my money, and almost got some more when I thought of buying Music For a Darkened Theatre Vol. 1, but I decided to wait.
While I enjoyed the conversations and the food, I had less energy than I thought, so I napped.bikergeek drove me home, so that is appreciated. Now here I am, writing. What the fuck, I was too tired to write fiction, but I can wank on my journal?
Somewhere,docbrite posted about reflections on the weird drama involving her and a childfree community. I haven't posted in one community for a while--I haven't thought of anything, except for this kid running around in a Bickfords while I was having breakfast with someone who wanted kids eventually. Basic thing is, as kids, we expected to act with some decorum when we went out. Not like adults, exactly, but we were to stay in our seats, not yell and be nice to the waiters. Also, there were some places that were adults-only, that moms and dads go to be with other adults, and that was what it was.
So, tales of kids acting badly in public annoy me, since I and a lot of people my age were never allowed to run away, scream, etc. I am not saying that I was an angel. I also melted down in public (and even a few old fashioned temper tantrums). I was just taken out of the place and calmed down, or at least had my mom calm me down. However, I think misbehavior like that is more the fault of the parents than the child. At a certain point, they don't know. When is the child to be considered responsible for not being a complete ass?. Thirteen sound good? Part of parenting is teaching how to balance self-sufficency with compassion. I cannot say whether I got that right, but I'd say my mom helped in some of it.
I am at an age where I am still young enough to be fertile, so while I don't feel white-hot rage, I am angry that people would really think I ought to have kids. I get shaken by loud noises, I like lots of time alone, and I don't always deal well with unpredictablity. These are not traits for a good parent.
I am also angry that somehow the concern over kids isn't translated into concern for poor kids, the elderly, abused animals and adults running into a patch of unemployment and general bad luck. I also wish some folks would think long and hard about being a parent, and that more people consider adoption if they want kids.
That concern for others also gets me angry at the 'I got mine' tone I sometimes see in childfree communities. I don't have kids, but somewhere, I have an obligiation to do what I can for my fellow adults, at the very least.
Why the hell aren't I posting this in![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
childfree? Maybe later.
My sister's friend from Philly and my mom's boyfriend's son are staying over. Welcome to Hotel My House. I should talk, since I am hoping to host a certain faraway primary. I gotta figure when I can pay for his ticket, though.
- Bill Maher
Anyway, I got
browngirl her birthday present. I didn't feel good about burning the entire NMBC soundtrack, so I bought it (I broke my rule of not downloading entire albums when I did Your Funeral, My Trial, but I won't do that again). Danny Elfman gets more of my money, and almost got some more when I thought of buying Music For a Darkened Theatre Vol. 1, but I decided to wait. While I enjoyed the conversations and the food, I had less energy than I thought, so I napped.
bikergeek drove me home, so that is appreciated. Now here I am, writing. What the fuck, I was too tired to write fiction, but I can wank on my journal?Somewhere,
docbrite posted about reflections on the weird drama involving her and a childfree community. I haven't posted in one community for a while--I haven't thought of anything, except for this kid running around in a Bickfords while I was having breakfast with someone who wanted kids eventually. Basic thing is, as kids, we expected to act with some decorum when we went out. Not like adults, exactly, but we were to stay in our seats, not yell and be nice to the waiters. Also, there were some places that were adults-only, that moms and dads go to be with other adults, and that was what it was. So, tales of kids acting badly in public annoy me, since I and a lot of people my age were never allowed to run away, scream, etc. I am not saying that I was an angel. I also melted down in public (and even a few old fashioned temper tantrums). I was just taken out of the place and calmed down, or at least had my mom calm me down. However, I think misbehavior like that is more the fault of the parents than the child. At a certain point, they don't know. When is the child to be considered responsible for not being a complete ass?. Thirteen sound good? Part of parenting is teaching how to balance self-sufficency with compassion. I cannot say whether I got that right, but I'd say my mom helped in some of it.
I am at an age where I am still young enough to be fertile, so while I don't feel white-hot rage, I am angry that people would really think I ought to have kids. I get shaken by loud noises, I like lots of time alone, and I don't always deal well with unpredictablity. These are not traits for a good parent.
I am also angry that somehow the concern over kids isn't translated into concern for poor kids, the elderly, abused animals and adults running into a patch of unemployment and general bad luck. I also wish some folks would think long and hard about being a parent, and that more people consider adoption if they want kids.
That concern for others also gets me angry at the 'I got mine' tone I sometimes see in childfree communities. I don't have kids, but somewhere, I have an obligiation to do what I can for my fellow adults, at the very least.
Why the hell aren't I posting this in
childfree? Maybe later. My sister's friend from Philly and my mom's boyfriend's son are staying over. Welcome to Hotel My House. I should talk, since I am hoping to host a certain faraway primary. I gotta figure when I can pay for his ticket, though.
