Dear Mr. Card,
I like your series about writing science fiction, but you're making people real unhappy with your essay about gay marriage. I'm not linking to it, ask docbrite or browngirl about it. Or see fandom_wank talk about the wank and doing it at the same time.
I shall not go that route and introduce you to a friend. Orson, meet xiphias. Xiphias has some things to say about Jewish law, polygamy (you guys had that, long time ago) and oppression.
Remember, sir, you don't have to like the idea of people getting married, but don't ever think it will stop with 'them.' I seem to recall some instances in American history where the Mormons were 'them' (you weren't always innocent, but I tend to think slaughter is a bad thing).